by Jan McDaniel
Sleep. We need it, especially after loss, but rest is often elusive. The stillness of night does not bring stillness when the mind is filled with turmoil and worry, thoughts of not only the loss but also circumstances that resulted. We miss someone. The nervous system is on hyper-alert, with anxiety and perhaps depression adding to the melee. Too often, this is a time of pain, not peace.
If sleep does come, it may have a nightmarish quality. Certainly, a second or two after waking - whether in the middle of the night or the morning - the harsh realizations begin, sliding over a new survivor mercilessly. Everything we don't want is there waiting.
It often takes a lot of time to find real rest again. The journey that began with the loss of a loved one is not a quick trip. It is no wonder that survivors who are left behind lose strength, become exhausted, eat little or too much, or begin to suffer health problems. From shock to the grinding period of dealing with the aftermath to the early stages of finding support and healing, a survivor's work is just to breathe, to do what must be done.
Here are a few suggestions that might help ease the nighttime hours, for sleep is important to both healing and health:
Way for Hope
My name is Jan McDaniel. I speak grief. I also speak peace and healing. I started A Way for Hope blog and website to house projects I create that might help others who are grieving. The blog has expanded to include guest posts by my dear friends and fellow survivors who wanted to speak hope for others, too.
We understand how difficult losing someone you love is. We know how much it means to hear from others further along on this journey and how it is possible to live a life of happiness and joy even while still remembering and honoring those we love.
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