by Jan McDaniel
Today is Father's Day, Not an easy day if you are grieving a father or if you are a father who has lost one or more of his children. But at some point the memories will bring happiness. Pain and love will exist side-by-side.
Yesterday, I heard a dad call out the name of a son who had died. I heard the longing in his voice. He wished someone would remember, over the embers of a fire, to say his name. I said I would. Others said the same. And we will. We won't be together, but we will remember.
I often light a candle in the evenings to remember my husband and all those I have met who lost someone just as special. When the light of one small candle burns a hole in the darkness, I like to imagine all the lights across the world from people who care bringing moments of peace to hearts that are hurting.
If one candle can give so much hope, imagine what all our candles can do together.
Our love for them is a lot like their lives. They existed. They mattered. They made an impact on the people around them and on the world. It made a difference that they were here.
That difference still exists and still impacts the world. We are changed because of them. And we carry that change in every fire each time we say their names.
Say your loved one's name. Take a moment to light a candle (or a campfire) and feel the warmth from that flame. In the same way, your loved one is beside you. Feel the warmth. Remember.
Wishing you peace,
Way for Hope
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Links of Value:
Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors
National Alliance on Mental Illness
Word of God
"My Story" Big Daddy Weave
"Hope in Front of Me"
The Joy FM
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