by Jan McDaniel
Making changes does not mean you forget about the ones you lost. Moving forward is not the same thing as getting “over it.”
I will always miss and treasure my husband. He meant so much to me. But while I am alive, I need to live.
I couldn't look at photographs of him at first, but now they bring me happiness. Bittersweet? Yes. Some days are harder than others, but I am grateful for every day I had with him, and I don’t want to lose the memories of our time together.
Many of these moments were captured over the years and put into frames or photo albums. I developed a tendency to take them all down from the walls and put the albums and home movies away and then put them back out as they had been. Back and forth.
I don’t feel the need to do that anymore. As with everything else, finding balance with this was a process.
The things I do now are things he would have loved, things he couldn't enjoy when he was sick.
Just being together was so much fun for both of us. Seeing older couples eating out or shopping makes me feel his absence. Another hurdle to face; another step on my journey.
If you could talk to the one you lost NOW, what would you say?
Any of these journal prompts may be helpful to use more than once, especially this one. As you change, do your answers change?
Way for Hope
Losing someone you love is difficult, but it can mean a lot to hear from others traveling similar paths.
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Links of Value:
Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors
National Alliance on Mental Illness
Word of God
"My Story" Big Daddy Weave
"Hope in Front of Me"
The Joy FM
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