by Sandy Walden
Lists. Grocery lists. Hardware store lists. Lists of places I want to visit, people I want to call. Chores that I want to do and another of the things that I feel like I need to do. Lists for my personal life, as well as professional. Yep, I’m a huge fan of lists!
When you are grieving, I encourage you to feel your way through. What sort of lists support you?
For instance, I had a short checklist when I was early in my grief. I don’t recall precisely, but it looked something like this.
I’m sure you get the idea. This short list helped me to be sure that I would always arrive in my office put together. This gave me reassurance and relieved me of worry. It also made me chuckle a little bit, so for me it was a good thing.
At this time, we are experiencing the covid-19 pandemic, so we are self-isolating in our home. For me, this provides a lot of opportunities, but it also can bring some feelings of overwhelm. After all, If I’m home all day, every day, shouldn’t my house sparkle? Shouldn’t all of the to-do’s be done? Cooking should be at the gourmet level, after all there is all that time! My business blog should be months ahead, I should be calling, emailing, listening to webinars… do you feel the incredible pressure of all that ‘should-ing’? I sure do!
So, I sat down and really thought about the sort of lists that are always ongoing in my house.
There are always various lists in our house, both my husband and I find them helpful. We each have our way of doing this. For me, it’s helpful to have a master list and then smaller lists so that I don’t feel overwhelmed. This helps to remind me of what is manageable.
Something that I find really helpful is to make a list of what I accomplished.
If you are grieving, you may well be feeling levels of overwhelm. Focus can be difficult and there are times that motivation doesn’t show up at all. So I encourage you to make short lists. Perhaps write them down, or even tell them to yourself or someone else.
If you’ve read my messages before, you know that I’m a huge fan of keeping a Gratitude List. And adding to it every day. Here are some other suggestions.
You may keep one list or 75, what serves you? What helps you to feel supported? Motivated? Loving and loved?
As always, this is about you. It’s always about you. Because you matter. Together we can walk that path, through grief, into healing.
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