guest post by Sandy Walden
Oh, the days of deepest grief! Whether it is early grief when the fog is heavy and the way forward is often hidden … or further down the path where you are finding a "new normal," there are times, moments, days or sometimes longer when overwhelm visits.
I have a few thoughts to share that I hope you will find helpful.
– Take a few deep … slow … calming … breaths
You see, when we take those deep breaths, it slows down our heart and our mind follows. Even if it’s for a short time, we get that respite. The more we practice, the more natural and easy it comes to us. And the longer the respite lasts.
– Have a plan
Having that plan reminds me that I have a measure of control. It may be small, but it’s something and when we are grieving a loss, it often feels that there is much out of our control.
That plan might be to ask a friend or companion to be beside us during a difficult time. It could be rehearsing saying the name of the one we love, out loud. The plan might be a phone call to someone who can listen with support and compassion.
– Know that however you feel is alright.
There is no need to judge your feelings. They are not wrong, regardless of how painful they may be. Feelings/emotions are simply gauges that indicate to us that an area needs our attention.
– Take a bit of exercise.
It may be a walk or run outside. Yoga or something similar which is healthy for your body, mind, and soul.
These are simply a few tools that I suggest to clients and continue to use myself.
These tips are just an offering of love. Please take them or leave them alone, whatever resonates with you. <3
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Way for Hope
Losing someone you love is difficult, but it can mean a lot to hear from others traveling similar paths.
Links of Value:
Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors
National Alliance on Mental Illness
Word of God
"My Story" Big Daddy Weave
"Hope in Front of Me"
The Joy FM
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