If a blank page looks intimidating, try brainstorming. Simply write down a word to begin and add other words that relate to the first one. An example might be FEAR. Circle that word in the center of the page. Extend short lines for each new word you think of relating to the concept of fear. My brainstorming page would contain words linked to FEAR that relate to my own experience. Some of these would be ANXIETY, TRAPPED, or HELP. Connecting to the word HELP, I might think of other concepts such as DOCTOR, BOOKS, or FRIENDS. Your words could be different.
Brainstorming leads you from one idea to the next. Soon, those words might fill the page or lead you to begin writing quickly about one specific word. Describe your fear or write about a friend who has helped you.
Alternately, write about what you would say to a friend who is in your situation. Often it is helpful to gain a new perspective through role play. This exercise will help you discover that you truly are a great source of strength for yourself, even now when you may feel adrift and uncertain.
Though loss is painful and though progress is most often slow, active grieving does not have to last forever. What does that mean? It does not mean forgetting about your loved one and moving on. Rather, it means recognizing the pain you feel and the possibility that you can deal with it. It means you can move forward in a healthy way without disrespecting or letting go of that precious love you feel. Your loved one mattered and still matters now. You matter, too.
ACTIVITY: Decide on a project you can do to honor your memories, and write a plan for it. Some ideas are below but choose your own idea if you prefer.
Welcome to Telling Your Story Through Writing!
My name is Jan McDaniel.